Are You Shy? Try These Conversation Starters!

Are you shy? Find it hard to start conversations with people you don’t know well? You don’t have to worry about trying controversial subjects like politics and religion. Try these openers to get you talking:

  • “Who is the most interesting person you have ever met?” This certainly gets people thinking and talking about people they have met and leads you to ask, “Why?”
  • “Where in the world would you most like to visit?” Maybe it’s a location shared by many people leading to a common interest and of course, once again, you can ask “Why?”
  • “Who’s had the biggest influence in your life?” Generally, they will think of a positive person and be very willing to talk further about them and why that influence is positive.
  • “What has been the most life-changing experience you have ever had?” This could be something good or even something tragic that has affected their life to a great degree. It should lead to a long conversation.
  • “What is the most spontaneous thing you have ever done?” From funny to brave and adventurous stories, this is a good opener.
  • “What thing that you haven’t done yet would you most like to do?” Maybe a career move? A new family, a change of lifestyle? This is where you can join in and talk about your aspirations, too.
  • “What is the best quality you’ve inherited from either of your parents?” This is a particularly appropriate topic at family gatherings as most people will know who you are talking about.
  • “From which person have you learned most in your life?” Another uplifting positive topic of conversation.
  • “What historical figure do you most identify with?” This really opens up the conversation into the era the figure lived in and events surrounding their life. Yes, it can get into politics or religion but generally, people treat this question in the fun that was intended and steer away from being too serious.
  • “What kind of music do you like?” This gives you a great insight into other people but don’t let the subject close. An interesting aside is to ask “What is the most embarrassing album in your collection?” Answers to this one are usually hilarious.